THAT IS ALL.

Hollywood Senior High (may she rest in peace) was an edgier kind of place.

Nor the rest of us, it would seem.

Well, based upon extensive observations over the past 25 years or so, there’s some truth in [the idea that women prefer arseholes].

Is this one on the antifeminist bingo card? My extensive observations over the past 25 years show that it’s trotted out regularly as an excuse for asshole behaviour and hating women. It’s one of the most popular urban myths around.

A survey of actual longterm couples would show a majority of women happily cohabiting with non arseholes. The women who knowingly shack up with arseholes are exhibiting a pathology, not some kind of basic evolutionary instinct, as the Dmitri types would have you believe.

DIMITRI THE LOVER, ACTUAL MEDICAL DOCTOR will then wipe on the curtain and leave.
(sorry, couldn’t help myself)

Explore nature, art, food, sex together. Put silly religious superstitions to the side. Be protective of one another sex-wise…but w/out exploration before marriage or civil union you are often setting yerself up for failure.

It’s not really that hard. Guys shouldn’t be afraid to talk about feelings…& cry even. Any woman or gay/lesbian partner who walks away from your inner-emotions isn’t worth the trouble anyway…generally…sometimes they might realise later they were too uptight & judgemental & RETURN. Conversation is so important. Sharing.

And not expecting so much of each other monetary-wise. Dates can be great at home/your pad/place…or in a park…or at the beach…w/ a homemade spread of food…or a few things in cartons/tubs etc. Add a special plant picked from your garden, side of road…or a wee poem…or a big smile…a listening ear…some tolerance of difference…some positive thoughts…a quote from your fave author…or joke from a movie…& theme from a book…& you don’t need a restaurant. Some people are too proud to say they don’t have the money to keep hitting loud clubs & expensive restaurants. Then they get bitter w/ the other when they see their last pennies being eaten. Why bother? Start HONEST…meet each other halfway or such…and yer on yer way to a stable, trust-filled relationship.

I’ve made plenty of mistakes. Don’t be afraid to say “sorry”.

I’m learning to hug once a day or so, compromise, listening to a lover’s needs, putting shared effort into housework, respecting their space…ensuring each, w/in reason, can get required education, have a career, reach full potential if possible…but not being afraid to bring up needs & provide advice…& trying not to let jealousy, envy & overly-active imagination/paranoia based on childhood abandonment/trauma eat me.

Relationships are WORK, colourful, can be explosive…sometimes predictable and boring…but you’ve got to add pizzazz, something different now & then (don’t just fall into the Corporate/Religion-based traditions…too often about profiteering & exercising control)…surprise one another (have Xmas in July…or buy a bread-maker…or build a pizza oven…write recipes together…or photograph the garden together, chatting about & observing the small things, amazing things we often miss in our busy lives…massage each other)…say how much you LOVE/LUV one another (different ways to do that)… ring a friend you both care deeply for & chat for hours…catch up…do creative projects together.

Relationships are, as the cliche/wise adage goes “full of ups & downs”…but they can be fruitful…wonderful…stabilising, invigorating, reassuring when mutual respect is involved.

This Sears fella is promoting a loser’s game…a game filled w/ broken hearts, bashed esteem & broken, empty HOMES.
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There’s also a bit of a belief, I think, that being an arsehole is a more successful approach to attracting women than being a nice person.

Well, based upon extensive observations over the past 25 years or so, there’s some truth in it.

On the subject of visible cleavage, I’ve had it used on me. I didn’t, at the time, realise it was deliberate though, and must have pointed out that her top had come unbuttoned again at least three times over the course of the evening, dense and low self-esteemed individual that I am. Must have worked long term though ‘cos we’ve been married 13 years.

For reasons other than simple envy though, I don’t like notch carvers much. As has been pointed out, there’s nothing wrong with it per se, given honesty and resposibility, but having seen some of the emotional pain caused when that wasn’t the case (realistically much of the time), I’m disinclined to accept it as inherently benign.

And Mr Sears is seriously freaky.

And is it just me, but does the jargon and acronyms of the “Community” remind you of Scientology?

Look stop blaming Tom Cruise. That was just a film role. And anyway he’s having problems. I read it in New Idea. Katie’s leaving him. Last week he was controlling her. The week before that she was leaving him and the week before that he was controlling her. And you know what? That’s been going on since he jumped on Oprah’s couch.
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Except for the week with the Beckhams and the raunchy foursome in the jacuzzi. Wow was that hot. David and Tom had this super-heating gel treatment for their hair and it made the jacuzzi really hot. Victoria and Katie had to take practising their facial exprssion elsewhere.
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Tom Cruise knows a lot about seducing women, sort of. He’s written a book: How To Arrange a Phony Marriage And Stop Wife Talking About It After You Dump Her.
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Victoria and Katie are also writing a book: How To Make A Little Go A Very Long Way.

And is it just me, but does the jargon and acronyms of the “Community” remind you of Scientology? “PAUs” “Negs”, “Orgs” “M/U” etc. Another faux psycho-engineering strategy for treating people as programable units – lacking even the memorable rhetorical flourishes of state accepted religions.

Having the funny is always the circuit breaker when dealing with such pillocks who think a personality is just a hackable system – especially after they pay for the codes from someone who’s own personality is completely bitrotted.

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the abysmal lack of komputer skillz these superior manly-men display!

Yes. If you want computer skills you need a reedy dork.

This gets chalked up as “the method works” instead of just as a statistical probability.

As in the dude who just walks up to every single woman in the street and says: ja wanna root? One will say yes. You just have to not care about the 37 568 who call you a jackarse, throw tomato juice in your face or take our a contract on your life. Or I suppose be particular about who own the orifice.
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Orifice? Jeez. I really don’t understand these dudes. Why don’t they just go and buy an inflatable doll or something?
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Someone somewhere was writing about sociopathological success in seduction. Sociopaths are actually quite socially successful for the simple reason that they have no empathy and this enables them to be supremely calculating. I’ll dig it up if possible.
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Derrida Derider -

I told my son that women want the same things men want

That’s true in exactly the same way as ‘i before e except after c’ is true.

More interestingly: if you’ve seen his weird animated cruicifixion fantasies online, its quite evident he has a clinical and probably rather serious mental illness – its classic schizophrenic ideation.

If I may resort to psychobabble for a moment, the psychologically easiest explanation is to demean women. They take the view that there’s nothing wrong with them and the way them tried to interact with women in the past, it’s the women that are too dumb to appreciate them. Furthermore, if women are such contemptible creatures, it’s morally justifiable to use underhanded tactics to get them to sleep with you.

There’s also a bit of a belief, I think, that being an arsehole is a more successful approach to attracting women than being a nice person. Hence, to these men, this observation leads to the conclusion that one must also transform oneself into an arsehole if they want to attract women.